The lady of your choice will prvide th latex dams for oral sex with any woman.
i do not see why you acnnot bring toys. if you email or tweet the aldy ahead of time, you can work out the necessary hardware you will need.
I do not believe you need a condom with your wife,but will need them for the lady replaced as appropriate. I think both woman can do that as you will be wearing a condom. Again converse wth the lady of your choice for any restrictions she has.
I expect no filming will be allowed.