November 22, 2013 at 11:38 pm #5908
So I’m really new to the sex thing. And today I heard,for the first time, about vaginal muscles. Are these muscles that can be exercised. Does this make them stronger give you, better control over them? Now there is a talent that would make you really popular with ALL the boys. Is this a talent that is used widely by courtesans? Info….I need info….November 23, 2013 at 2:46 pm #5909
Google the phrase “kegel exercises” and you’ll discover everything you need to know on this subject.November 23, 2013 at 4:33 pm #5910
Schwalsr is correct! It’s not so much a question of what a woman can do to improve her vaginal muscles….There are more than kegel exercises. The question is will a woman actually DO them and do them often enough….
I DO THEM OFTEN! Actually these type of exercises make me horny! LOL.
CharinaNovember 24, 2013 at 2:55 am #5911
Thanks guys. Can always depend on the forum. And Charina Lee, I sorta’ think you get horny when the wind blows. Or the sun shines.November 24, 2013 at 3:09 am #5912
Wow you know our Charina pretty well I see lmaoNovember 24, 2013 at 5:31 am #5915
I just think Charina is horny almost all of the time, except right after her releases.November 25, 2013 at 5:08 am #5921
The Rare Truth About “Tight” and “Loose” Women
Notions of women’s tightness and looseness are fraught with mythology.
Published on September 16, 2011 by Michael Castleman, M.A. in All About Sex
Many women complain that their vaginas are “too tight” or “too loose,” and many men raise the issue about lovers. Notions of vaginal tightness and looseness are fraught with mythology. Many people believe that (1) the virgin vagina is extremely tight, (2) that loss of virginity permanently loosens it, (3) that frequent sex loosens it further (so don’t be promiscuous, girls!), and (4) that childbirth loosens the vagina even more and possibly forever after. The truth is considerably different.
Imagine a hand towel stuffed inside a thick sock squeezed by two hands. The sock is the vagina. The towel is the folded muscle tissue of the vaginal wall. And the hands are the pelvic floor muscles that surround the vagina.
The vagina’s tightly folded muscle tissue is very elastic, like an accordion or the mouth. Try this: Pull the corners of your mouth out toward your ears then let go. What happens? The mouth immediately snaps back to its pre-stretched state because the tissue is elastic. Do it 100 times. There’s no permanent stretching. The mouth quickly returns to its pre-stretched state and no one would ever know you’d stretched it.
The same goes for the vagina, with two exceptions I’ll discuss shortly. When it’s at rest–all the time except sexual arousal and childbirth–the vagina’s muscle tissue remains tightly folded like a closed accordion. Anxiety makes the vaginal musculature clench even tighter. That’s why young girls sometimes have problems inserting tampons. Their vaginal muscle tissue is tight and contracted to begin with, and many girls feel anxious about touching themselves and inserting anything, so the muscles contract even tighter.
As women become sexually aroused, vaginal muscle tissue relaxes somewhat. Biologically, this makes perfect sense. Evolution is all about facilitating reproduction. A tight vagina would impede intercourse and reproduction, so women evolved to have sexual arousal relax the vaginal muscles, allowing easier insertion of erections–and greater chance of pregnancy.
However, arousal-related vaginal loosening does NOT produce a big open cavity like the inside of a sock. Rather, the vaginal interior changes from resembling a tight fist to a fist loose enough to insert a finger or two.
If the vagina feels “too tight” during lovemaking, the woman is either (1) not interested in sex, or (2) she has not had enough warm-up time to allow her vaginal musculature to relax enough for comfortable insertion.
A man who attempts intercourse before the woman is fully aroused–before her vagina has relaxed and become well lubricated–is either sexually unsophisticated or a boor. Most women require at least 30 minutes of sensuality—kissing, hugging, and mutual massage for their vaginas to relax enough to allow the penis to slide in comfortably. That’s why leisurely, playful, whole-body lovemaking is so important. It gives women (and men) the warm-up time they need. In addition, it also allows the vagina to relax, and, in most women, produce enough natural lubrication for comfortable intercourse. In other words, the solution to vaginal tightness is extended foreplay. It you need more lubrication, try a commercial lubricant.
One final note: If a woman experiences pain and/or great difficulty inserting a tampon or accepting an erection, the cause may be vaginismus, unusual clenching of the vaginal muscles. For suspected vaginismus, consult a physician.
After relaxing during sex, vaginal muscle tissue naturally contracts—tightens—again. Intercourse does NOT permanently stretch the vagina. This process, loosening during arousal and tightening afterward, happens no matter how often the woman has sex.
The vagina stretches a great deal during childbirth, like an accordion opened all the way. Post-partum does it re-tighten completely? Yes, usually, at least in young women, that is, women in their late teens and early twenties. Within six months after delivery, the typical young woman’s vagina feels pretty much how it was before she gave birth.
Now for the two exceptions. If you stretch elastic a great deal, over time, it fatigues and no longer snaps back entirely. That can happen to the vaginas of young women after multiple births. Their vaginal muscles fatigue and no longer fully contract. In addition, aging fatigues vaginal muscle. Whether or not women have given birth, as they grow older, they may complain of looseness.
Today, many woman delay childbearing until after 30, and some have children after 40. Combine the rigors of older childbearing with the effects of aging on the vaginal muscles, and many women complain of looseness. Women who give birth after around 30 may notice persistent looseness after delivering only one child. Individual differences account for the fact that birth—and age—related looseness happens to some women and not others.
Here’s a quick fix for vaginal looseness. Have intercourse in the man-on-top position. Once he inserts, he lifts himself up and the woman closes her legs. Her thighs squeeze his penis and make her feel tighter.
The tightening approach most often recommended by sex therapists is Kegel exercises. Kegels, named for the doctor who popularized them, involve contracting the muscles used to interrupt urine flow or squeeze out the last few drops.
Kegels do, indeed, tighten the vagina, but they have nothing to do with the vaginal muscles. They strengthen the pelvic floor muscles that surround the vagina, the hands that hold the stuffed sock. Age and childbearing fatigue these muscles. The hands don’t grip the sock as tightly and the towel feels loose. Kegels tighten the pelvic floor muscles. The hands squeeze the sock, which clamps down on the towel, and the vagina feels tighter.
Kegels are totally private. They can be practiced anytime anywhere. Start slowly and over several weeks, work up to a half-dozen sets of 10 contractions several times a day. In a few months, you should feel tighter. You should also enjoy more intense orgasms. The pelvic floor muscles contract during orgasm. As they become stronger, so do orgasms.
If several months of daily Kegels don’t produce the tight feeling you want, try ben-wa balls or vaginal cones. Ben-wa balls are sold as sex toys. Insert them, then walk around the house trying to keep them from falling out. When the pelvic floor muscles are weak, the balls drop out quickly, but as the muscles grow stronger, women can hold the balls inside longer. Vaginal cones are similar, except they’re prescribed by physicians. (To obtain ben-wa balls, visit MyPleasure.com.
If vaginal cones don’t work, electrical stimulation of the vaginal muscles is your last resort. A nurse inserts a probe similar to a tampon and a mild electrical current causes muscle contractions that make the vagina feel tighter. Treatments happen in a urologist’s office during 20- to 30-minute sessions usually twice a week for about eight weeks.
Unfortunately, the mythology of vaginal tightness and looseness is deeply ingrained. I’ll probably get nay-saying comments from people who swear that deflowering caused permanent loosening. I’m not about to argue with anyone’s experience. I’m just describing the physiology. What do you think? http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201109/the-rare-truth-about-tight-and-loose-womenNovember 25, 2013 at 5:18 am #5922
Kegel exercises: A how-to guide for women
Kegel exercises can help you prevent or control urinary incontinence and other pelvic floor problems. Here’s a step-by-step guide to doing Kegel exercises correctly.
By Mayo Clinic staff
Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder, small intestine and rectum. You can do Kegel exercises, also known as pelvic floor muscle training, discreetly just about anytime.
Start by understanding what Kegel exercises can do for you — then follow step-by-step instructions for contracting and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles.
Why Kegel exercises matter
Many factors can weaken your pelvic floor muscles, including pregnancy, childbirth, surgery, aging and being overweight.
You might benefit from doing Kegel exercises if you:
1. Leak a few drops of urine while sneezing, laughing or coughing.
2. Have a strong, sudden urge to urinate just before losing a large amount of urine (urinary incontinence).
3. Leak stool (fecal incontinence).
Kegel exercises can be done during pregnancy or after childbirth to try to prevent urinary incontinence. Kegel exercises — along with counseling and sex therapy — might also be helpful for women who have persistent difficulty reaching orgasm.
Keep in mind that Kegel exercises are less helpful for women who have severe urine leakage when they sneeze, cough or laugh. Also, Kegel exercises aren’t helpful for women who unexpectedly leak small amounts of urine due to a full bladder (overflow incontinence).
How to do Kegel exercises
It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers:
Find the right muscles. To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream. If you succeed, you’ve got the right muscles.
Perfect your technique. Once you’ve identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and lie on your back. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, and then relax for five seconds. Try it four or five times in a row. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.
Maintain your focus. For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.
Repeat 3 times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.
Don’t make a habit of using Kegel exercises to start and stop your urine stream. Doing Kegel exercises while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles, as well as lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder — which increases the risk of a urinary tract infection.
When to do your Kegels
Make Kegel exercises part of your daily routine. You can do Kegel exercises discreetly just about anytime, whether you’re sitting at your desk or relaxing on the couch. You might make a practice of fitting in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking email.
When you’re having trouble
If you’re having trouble doing Kegel exercises, don’t be embarrassed to ask for help. Your doctor or other health care provider can give you important feedback so that you learn to isolate and exercise the correct muscles.
In some cases, biofeedback training might help. During a biofeedback session, your doctor or other health care provider inserts a small probe into your vagina or rectum. As you relax and contract your pelvic floor muscles, a monitor will measure and display your pelvic floor activity.
When to expect results
If you do Kegel exercises regularly, you can expect results — such as less frequent urine leakage — within about a few months. For continued benefits, make Kegel exercises a permanent part of your daily routine.
Female pelvic floor muscles
A woman’s pelvic floor muscles work like a hammock to support the pelvic organs, including the uterus, bladder and rectum. Kegel exercises can help strengthen these muscles. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/kegel-exercises/WO00119December 4, 2013 at 11:00 am #6124
Knowledge is POWER!!!!!December 4, 2013 at 11:01 am #6125
And yes, I am horny most of the time! LOL. But its not physical most of the time. It’s a mental thought including many fantasies. The mind controls the body!!!!!
CharinaDecember 7, 2013 at 12:54 pm #6165
Flint, I just need a few minutes after those wonderful releases and my mind starts to get horny all over again! LOL.December 13, 2013 at 7:41 am #6217
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The 4 Stages of Female Orgasm
The standard textbook description of female excitation and orgasm goes like this. A prolonged period of arousal, a plateau, orgasm proper and resolution. The same can be identified in men.
Major studies which are still often quoted are those of Kinsey and of Masters and Johnson who tackled the sensitive topic of female sexuality in what was effectively the dark ages of the post-war 20th century.
In the excitement phase, often induced by thought alone, involves the following set of processes:
The nipples typically become erect and the clitoris also becomes turgid and it expands a little (though not much), and this may result in it becoming a bit more visible in some women with medium to large ones. Clitoral erection, more properly called tumescence, is due to increased arterial blood flow to the clitoris and reduced venous drainage and so is essentially identical to the process of penile erection but the degree of expansion is much less and involves little change in length, though the change in thickness and turgidity of the long clitoral shaft is very easily appreciated.
Increasing heart rate and blood pressure, and increasing genital blood flow also result in gradual expansion of the inner and outer labia and vaginal lubrication. Vaginal lubrication results mostly from a process called transudation that is, the increased blood flow (vasocongestion) of the vaginal wall causes blood and lymphatic fluids to be forced through the tissue into the vagina where it appears as a lot of tiny sweat-like drops on the vaginal walls. Additional vaginal lubrication comes from the cervix which is well-supplied with mucous glands. The amount and thickness of a woman¹s vaginal lubrication may well depend on her stage in the menstrual cycle primarily because of the changes in the cervical mucus.
There is also lubrication of the inner lips resulting from glandular secretions from the mucous membranes and possibly from the Skene¹s glands (paraurethral glands) that open at two small, sometimes quite visible, pores, one on either side of the urethral opening (at 5 and 7 o’clock if the genitals are arranged with clitoris at 12 o’clock).
As the arousal continues, the swelling of the labia causes the inner lips to part and spread outwards thus making the opening of the vagina more obvious. The increased blood flow causes the woman¹s genitals to change colour, from flesh tones to at least pinkish, but in women who have had children (it isn¹t clear if pregnancy alone causes this or childbirth is important) the colour change can be more extreme and her genitals can become almost a deep wine red.
The colour of the vaginal walls also changes in the same way, and internally the vaginal cavity expands and the inner two thirds can form a rather large space; evolutionarily this is probably to produce a cavity in which sperm will be kept in close proximity to the cervix and not simply run out after the male has shed his load. On the other hand, the outer third of the vagina becomes tighter due to the increased blood flow to the region. Internally the positions of the uterus moves causing the vagina to elongate, and the position of the cervix changes collectively these changes in the internal vaginal arrangement are often referred to as “tenting.” Late in the excitement phase the breasts are reported to swell, though it is hard to find detailed measurements.
The plateau is the final phase of excitement when basically all excitement parameters are at max and she is waiting to get herself over the edge, usually focusing her thoughts very much on her genitals or other arousing things. At this time spontaneous contractions of the anal sphincter, and muscles in the upper legs and pelvic region are common, and increased semi-involuntary movements of the hips usually indicates the imminence of orgasm.
The orgasm is a pulsatile event with strong feelings of pleasure centered around the genitalia and a demanding pushing feeling. In women this is usually indicated visibly a series of contractions in the vaginal-anal area which occur at about once every 0.8 seconds approx. and by a “sex flush” which is a rapid change in skin colour of the chest (breasts and area between them up to the neck and face) resulting from an increase in cutaneous blood flow. The rate of perineal contractions may vary from woman to woman, and certainly not all contractions in an orgasmic series are evenly spaced, the first usually being relatively long.
Internally, a lot more is going on, and videos of the inside of the vagina during orgasm show the cervix is very active and with each contraction it pushes down and “drinks” up semen from the puddle that would be there after a normal copulation so evolutionarily it only makes sense for the woman to come after the man has and only to do so if she wants to get pregnant by him! There are also waves of contractions of the uterus which are stimulated by the orgasmic surge in the hormone oxytosin. During orgasm the woman’s blood pressure and heart rate increase considerably and she often does staccato breathing and may vocalise though this may be both voluntary and involuntary depending on the individual. Some hold their breath. Many also show spastic contractions of muscles in the hands and feet causing curling of toes.
Much of the literature about female orgasm reports that during orgasm the clitoris retracts under the clitoral hood. This obviously comes from the studies of Kinsey and others. However, none of the hundreds of videos of real orgasm shown here is this visible. Also, given that the clitoris is composed of spongiform tissue without skeletal muscle, it is hard to see how this could be achieved mechanically as it certainly does not detumesce during orgasm.
The Bartholin’s glands (greater vestibular glands) which open just outside the vaginal opening produce a small amount of mucus (just a few drops) and this seems to be secreted just before orgasm. It may be involved in making the chemistry of the vagina less hostile to sperm.
After orgasm many women cannot bear continued direct stimulation of the clitoris and/or vulva (and even the breasts in some) and so pass into a resolution phase, but if the stimulation is maintained at a low level until the sensitivity subsides, avoiding direct clitoral contact, quite a lot of women can have a second or even numerous extra orgasms after the first one, separated by a minute or so. After a few orgasms it seems that clitoral sensitivity subsides and continued stimulation is possible. Possibly multi-orgasmicity is not universal in women, though it is likely that the painful, post-orgasmic sensitivity of the clitoris puts many off trying. In men it is possible but is exceedingly rare.
In early resolution there may be one or more infrequent contractions of the perineal muscles and anal sphincter that feel pleasurable (often referred top as aftershocks), but basically this is a time when the swelling of the breast and genitals slowly subsides over a period of many minutes (often about 20 mins). Failure to reach orgasm after reaching plateau can be very uncomfortable for some women because there has been no trigger to start the vascular decongestion of the genitals.
I hope this article has helped you learn a little bit more about the physiology of female orgasm. Please drop me a line if you have questions or would like to share your experiences. Email the Doctor: TheDoctor@HerPrivatePleasures.com
http://www.herprivatepleasures.com/4_stages_orgasm.htmAugust 25, 2015 at 8:37 pm #15473
The best sex I ever had was with a kegel master. I got owned by her & made heaps of noise like an idiot(& I didn’t care). Kegels can eliminate most ED ; her vagina squeezed me better than a hand & I stayed hard(w/condom) & finished very happily . Any woman who practices this art should let it be known & be proud. I would go out of my way for a woman who practices. Haven’t been with such a gal since. NO JOKE
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