just relax and have fun. Have a drink or two in the bar to loosen up. Wait till you see the available and beautiful women at the Ranch. It will change your life and way of thinking. I’m kind of in the same boat, older, a little overweight, shy. The girl I met was very respectful. The email suggestion is a good one. Start by communicating with some one you might want to spend time with. They used to have a video chat a few years ago but I guess they took it down.