Most of the time the ladies activity lists are up to date with her comfort levels, however nothings perfect. If you are interested in one particular lady but she doesn’t offer what you desire on her list then email her and ask, and if she still says no, you might be able to talk her into it for a little extra. For example, say the girl doesn’t list that they provide prostate massages, well she might not typically do so, but if you are willing to spoil her with a high budget, then she might be willing to push her boundaries a bit.
Then again, you could always find a lady whom is open to anything safe, kinda like me! 😉