[poeticjustice]

It helps, yes. You guys are helping with your advice. I am just wanting to hear from some of the girls input. I wonder if they would have the patience for me is all. I mean, this may not be an easy process for me. I’ve basically shied my sexuality into a corner, and I feel like I will be a nervous wreck because of this. I just hope they don’t feel like I’m pathetic or I’m a loser or something for being an adult virgin, really.

[J Alan]

If you look on this website, you can find a blog about losing virginity at the brothel. It’s a good article, and some ladies comment in the article and after in comments section. I can vouch for Erin being able to calm a man, make him feel good about his own ability. I have to think most any lady you pick would be similar. The article mentions how they are neutral, not judging, and how the virginity is more common than you think.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by J Alan.

[Flint]

The girls are not going to laugh at you or think about it. Some of them would be excited and turned on by someone like you. I believe you need a non short GFE party that ends up with sex. See if there is some chemistry in the ladies you email or tweet to.

[poeticjustice]

Ok that’s great to know. Thank you so much. It is reassuring to hear this. I just have this nervous feeling being near women in general. I wonder if that will prevent anything from happening for me.

[Flint]

I have no idea what you are budgeting for this party. For “your first time” do not create an environment of putting pressure on yourself to perform. You should enjoy the excperience , even if you come too soon or not at all.
Do you have a time frame for your party? it is never too early to start communicating with the ladies, as they cannot read Ranch email while away.

[poeticjustice]

Thanks, Flint for that advice. I would just like to know which ones would be best for someone like me. I’m pretty sure I have a thought of who would be best for me, but I don’t know who has those qualities. I am wondering that all the same. Any suggestions? Maybe some of the girls if they read this may know more. But until then, I guess I will message and see what I find.

[Flint]

peotic I cannot suggest anyone without really knowing you. When you look at the pictures of the ladies, which one appeals to you and gets you sexuall excited? Alos you want someone patient and wiling to guide you through the experience. a search on virgins produces:
Your Search Results:

Adi

AJ

Akira

Alana

Alex Empire

Alexis Ann

Allissa

Amber Lynn

Andrea Raquel

Angel Parr

Angelica

Arianna

Ashlynn May

Athena

Audrina Mari

Ayla

Blithe

Brittney Ryder

Brooklyn Bank$

Callie

Cassie

Char

Charina Lee

Charlie Rain

Charlotte xxx

Chelsea

Chloe

CiCi

Destini

Diana Rose

Ellie

Emma

Maybe start with them and winnow your list down?

[poeticjustice]

Ok, well I guess I will look and see.

[J Alan]

The Oft-Unmentioned Cure for Adult Virginity

I had an encounter with Erin who contributed to this article. I am not a virgin, but was nervous for other reasons. She was great about picking up on that and relaxing me.
If not Erin, I would have picked Destini, the other woman in this article based on her photo. Her comments, “All I know is that when a man leaves my bungalow after losing his virginity, he leaves with a smile from ear to ear.”

Blog: http://newblog.sherisranch.com/legal-prostitution/losing-virginity/
From blog: Over my years at a Nevada brothel I’ve had the honor of de-virginizing several men, both young and old. Why do men come to us to lose their v-card? Because we are professionals who can act as lover and teacher. We are neutral yet caring. We want you to love sex as much as we do, and we can show you how to do just that. –Char

If you are looking for a black lady, I can vouch for Kitty Cat being a great confidence booster.

[poeticjustice]

Thank you so much for that. I will look to see what everybody else thinks about this. I might take a look over this. Maybe one girl will respond back to me. I know you can have more than 1 girl. I am only looking for one girl who will treat me like a girfriend, I guess I have a fantasy as to how it would go, and I hoping that it would go the way I would hope it to go. Do the girls tell you if they will kiss, though? I haven’t heard that at all. I don’t know if I could do it without having kissing. Will the girls tell you if they kiss?

[kane]

Yes, they will tell you their ground rules from the beginning. Some girls kiss, some don’t some only allow light closed mouth kissing, some MAY allow open mouth kissing, (others who work/have spent more time at the ranch can clarify this). You can always find out where they stand on those, and many other topics if you email them or contact them via private message on twitter.

I would say that any lady at the ranch would do her utmost to help you have the most fantastic time you can in their company, would strive to alleviate your fears and nervousness, help you relax and help give you confidence. For your part, be respectful, use good hygiene practices and follow her lead. They know what they are doing and are great teachers.

I am sure any of the ladies in Flint’s list above would be marvelous companions for you to lose your v-card with, but I can only tell you from my own experience that, although I was not a virgin when I visited the ranch, Amber Lynn is very good at making one feel at ease and comfortable during your time there. I wholeheartedly recommend, if she is one of the girls you are thinking about emailing, that you do so. Even if you do not end up partying with her, she will give you good advice about your visit.

[Flint]

I think the most important part is to say you are a virgin and extremely nervous.
Do you have an idea when you are going to the Ranch? That would make selecting the lady of your dreams easier.

[poeticjustice]

Yeah, I would definitely need a guide of some sort to teach me what to do. I am like clueless with this, so a girl like her would really help me. I do have a list of women I saw that I found very pretty, and I think I will try to speak to some. Then I guess I hope to find the one girl that’s I can be comfortable with. I guess it’s the best route. I just hope she’ll be okay with it.

[poeticjustice]

By the way, since we are on the topic of girlfriend, what is this GFE? I am totally inexperienced to the whole escort thing, so what is the girlfriend experience? What’s all included in it? I am wondering because I am pretty interested in that. Is it like a date night or something? How long does it last? If I were going to lose my virginity, I would want to have it be a meaningful night, I guess. I still want it to be special and significant, not just a temporary thing. So is the Girlfriend experience that?

Also, quick question: I maybe should have mentioned this before at the top of the post, but I will anyway. I have never had sex before, right? However, I have hoped for something and someone special for a long time. I have basically invested myself into this moment and have waited for this, I guess. All that said, I wonder since the lady could potentially be my first that I might too attached and start falling for her. I know she would be an escort, and I would probably be just some face and name to her with money, but I know I’d never forget her. How could I forget my first time, especially with a really beautiful woman? I may develop feelings for her when it’s all said and done. I feel like I will fall for the girl I go with to forego my virginity. I don’t know. I know it is not probably a good idea to do so, because she will have probably not love me back either. I just think it may happen.

Could it happen to me? Is it common to have that happen? I need to know.

[Flint]

GFE is like being on a date, with some of the customary activities. depending on your wants and budget that would determine the length of the party, since sexual activities will be included. Maybe one of thge bungalows would be what you would want to be in, since this is a special occassion. Look them over on this website.
I cannot speak about falling in love, but you can see the lady more than once over your visits to the Ranch.

[J Alan]

Is it like a date night or something? How long does it last? If I were going to lose my virginity, I would want to have it be a meaningful night, I guess. I still want it to be special and significant, not just a temporary thing. So is the Girlfriend experience that?

The GFE is like a date. She tries to anticipate what you would like her to be and tries to act as if she knows you and cares deeply about you. It will feel great, but you will have to come back to reality after it’s over. It will be special and significant, and I have a feeling it will be fairly short. I can’t tell you if you will afford an hour, less, more. But don’t get so hung up on feelings. I wish I had lost my virginity to a lady as hot as Erin, my party lady. Or a number of them there.
You just may get attached to her. But I hope you remember that it’s just a fantasy and you will probably come out of your daze in a week or two, or even right away. There’s nothing wrong with falling for the lady in a way, but even normal outside relationships have rejection and pain and reality, so just roll with the punches and accept that she’s not going to actually come visit you. Go for the girl of your dreams and let that pain come later.
If you don’t get over it, you can save up more money and visit. That would be great for me too, if I could visit the lady who took my virginity years ago. (Actually, I don’t know for a fact that I couldn’t find her.) Just know that there will be some pain and rejection somewhere in your life and don’t worry about it.

Could it happen to me? Is it common to have that happen? I need to know.

[Flint]

I will agree that i wish i lost my virginity to the ladies then at the Ranch.

[poeticjustice]

Yeah, I guess that is one of the things I dread most happening, even though I know it is destined to happen. I know that I will not be in a long-term relationship with her, but I know that I would remember her forever. I just fear that she will forget me and not ever think of me again. I do have a little bit of 2nd thoughts with this. I just wonder if I will mean anything special to her. Knowing that I probably won’t actually hurts me a lot. It’s like over in a flash, and you want to make something that lasts. I never hoped I’d lose my virginity in something so temporary, but more of a “true love” relationship. It stings for me, I guess, that she would never want me how I guess I might like her. It just stings.

[J Alan]

Balderdash!!!! I tell you what. She will always remember you and that she was there for your special time. And your memory will be a long-term relationship. Virtually nobody stays with their first sexual partner, so true love with your first is a terrible long-shot to bet on.

Get on with this. You will have a smile on your face for weeks. You will get over any feelings for the lady and just treasure her in your memory. (Besides, you can always call again in the near future.)

There’s nothing more for us guys to say. Good times to you.

[Flint]

I think J is correct.

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