To put it mildly, men are entirely obsessed with the size of their penis. Particularly how their penis size compares to the measurements of other men and whether or not a female will consider their penis long and thick enough for quality sexual activity.

There are numerous charts and graphs detailing penis size available online. It seems that every year another study surfaces with the latest penile averages, so that men can break out the measuring tape and make sure that their schlong favorably compares. If a guy finds himself short, he can opt to join the growing number of men going under the knife to enlarge their penis surgically.

Some claim that a man’s obsession with the size of his reproductive organ can be blamed on the plethora of easily accessible porn that predominantly showcases men of over average size, or the relentless email spam advertising “male enhancement” products. It’s more likely, however, that this preoccupation with penis size is related to a lack of sex education.

Where can men turn to discover the real truth about penis size and to finally receive the answer to the age old question “Does size matter?” Well, there is one demographic that has more experience with penises than every physician, university researcher, and Cosmopolitan correspondent combined: prostitutes!

The prostitutes of Sheri’s Ranch, a legal brothel near Las Vegas, enjoy over 60,000 hours of sex annually with several thousand men, women, and couples. That’s a lot of penises being displayed, studied for visible signs of STD’s, and sexed satisfactorily to completion.

For the first time ever, several of these learned women chime in on the controversial topic. Does size matter? When it comes to great sex, these ladies seem to believe that there are better questions to ask…

I can honestly say I haven’t met a penis I didn’t like. They differ in many more ways than just length, and I can have a good time with any of them. Penises come in various widths, shapes, and curves, so learning the best ways to use your unique member will enhance your sex life much more than just relying on length alone. And remember, every woman is different, so communication is key.

Now forget about the size of the penises you see in pornos. In reality, most women can’t enjoy penetration that deep since an average woman’s vagina is only 3-4 inches long, the first inch being the most sensitive. In my personal experience, penises that are 4 inches long can still be more than satisfactory if used right. Also, do keep in mind that the penis isn’t the only way to please a woman. We can be brought to orgasm with only your mouth or your hands, and even an orgasm from intercourse can be greatly enhanced by clitoral stimulation. No matter the size or shape of penis you’ve got, a little “handiwork” will go a long way in increasing a woman’s arousal during sex.

Here are a few ideas to get you started on learning how to use your penis like a pro. If you’re on the smaller side, try using the doggy position or you can lay her on her back, lift her legs up to form a V, and enter her from a kneeling position. You can drape her legs over your shoulders to leave your hands free to brace yourself or for other stimulating purposes. If you’re on the larger side, woman-on-top and missionary are your best bets. Always have open communication with your partner so she can let you know how to improve as well as let you know what you do that gives her a rush of pleasure.

– Eve Adame

To paraphrase Forrest Gump, penises are like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get. Some are darker, some nutty, some smooth (they all, however, come cream-filled). It’s all in appreciating the diversity of men. Not only the diversity of their physicality, but also the diversity of their desires and fetishes. In this profession, I can appreciate variety. It keeps me on my toes (or in my case, sexy heels).

Mainstream society has overrated penis size and overestimated the usefulness of an over average sized dick. No matter the size, shape, way or form it comes; the trick is to stay innovative and creative with the moment because women don’t depend on just the penis for an orgasm. Whatever a man has been blessed with, it’s all about the fun we can have and how we can fulfill each other’s fantasies while in the moment.

So if size doesn’t matter, what does?  Angle, pressure, rhythm, speed all the while tantalizing her senses with your hands, lips, tongue, etc.  Most women require a variety of stimulation combinations to enjoy sex and especially to achieve the “Big O.”  Sex is supposed to be fun, and to consistently have fun we need to explore different positions, new role-play fantasies, a variety of toys, and sometimes even involve additional participants to keep our sex life fresh.

Create a list of all your favorite things to do together (nipple stimulation with a toy while doing it doggy-style and in front of a mirror, for example) and mix and match, ensuring you can use your Bad-Boy in multiple ways. If you can have genuine fun together as you bring each other to orgasm, you have discovered the secret of great sex…and that secret has very little to do with what you’re packing in your pants.

-Gigi

As I lay in bed, I use my sensual memories to help me with my daily orgasm. When I have to play with myself alone, I focus on my clit. At minimum, all I need is a little vibration to get the job done. However, I must admit nothing compares to a man thrusting into me! With or without the vibrator, a man can make me orgasm (sometimes multiple times).

From small to the extremely large penis, I have experienced all the different sized men. Don’t worry boys, no matter what shape, length, & girth, I can climax. Every single penis is unique, so the positions may vary on what works best for me, but the results are always the same, sexual satisfaction.

Men often question their amatory abilities when they think they lack in size and I don’t understand why. There is no need to fret size or to worry about how inexperienced you are. I am a professional courtesan, which means that I have a high level of sexual maturity. Nothing is more immature a belief than the inflated importance of penis size during sex. I know how to accommodate every single penis.

There is sometimes the opposite case where a man can look at his ample penis and thinks he is a stud. This is an assumption that I can tell you is wrong. You must take care of a woman’s sensual needs and allow her to guide you through the journey of her unique body rhythm. Being aggressive upon entry can ruin the moment. When you are well endowed, more sex position possibilities may be available to you, but the best sex will still require chemistry, exploration, and the use of your other extremities.

-Red Diamonds

Many men with sexual insecurities visit me because they know I will do everything in my power to alleviate any and all barriers to their enjoyment of all things erotic. I’ve been with many guys who have issues about their sexuality. There’s all this talk about penis size but many of the most confident and capable men I’ve been with come in all sizes – as do most of the most insecure.

The secret’s out guys, there are dudes with giant penises that have a lot to learn and men under five inches who know exactly what to do when they’re alone with a woman. The whole “big penises are better” scam is just a great way to make men anxious so that they shop online for ineffective enlargement pills. Believe me, there are much better ways for a guy to spend his money if he wants to improve his sexual prowess. I’ll teach you everything you need to know to make her come.

-Shay

I’ve seen and experienced a good amount of penises in my lifetime, through personal experiences and work. I’ve never understood why there is so much pressure for having a LARGE penis. Size does not guarantee a woman any pleasure.

Truth is, it’s how you work it (penis, hands, mouth, body) and how “into” a woman/man is in the moment. If fact, you don’t need a penis at all to get a woman off! Most women experience pleasure through clitoral orgasms, which is the thin tear-dropped shaped part just above a woman’s vaginal opening. This fact contradicts most ideas of women getting off at the largest thing that’s jammed the farthest. Movies and media (especially porn) would make most of us think that the only way anyone under the sun can experience any kind of sexual pleasure is if there’s an extremely large penis in the room. This belief is false, my friends.

Just like men will appreciate women in all different shapes, sizes, and colors, the same goes for women. It’s all about exploring your sexual desires, fantasies and letting go! The most pleasure you’ll feel is when you listen to your body and what feels good, not what shape you are or how long, how tall, or how wide.

The biggest part about sexual pleasure, enjoyment, or intimacy is being in the moment and listening to our bodies, regardless of what we have, that we can experience ourselves and others in what feels good, not what looks good. Because I can guarantee you it’s not going to matter how “good” anyone looks, looks alone can’t make you cum.

-Juna

What is the ideal penis size? How long should it be? How thick? Here’s the deal: Every time a man makes me laugh, the ideal measurements become less important.

Every time he opens the door for me, the thickness matters less. Every time he buys me flowers, the length requirement changes. Every time he tells me something he wouldn’t tell just anyone, every time he cooks and does dishes, if he pays attention and makes an effort to get to know me, if he pushes his own emotional boundaries, if he borrows my car and returns it with a full tank of gas, if he treats his body with respect and makes an effort to look good for me, if he notices and compliments the new dress and shoes I bought to wear for him, if he doesn’t act repulsed if I start sobbing during the Anheuser Busch baby Clydesdale commercial, if he puts the toilet seat down, if he tips generously, if he reads and takes an interest in the world, if he can fix things, if he can brook disappointment and know when he’s lucky, if he’s kind to animals, if he doesn’t get road rage, if he wants to experience new things and challenge himself, if he picks up the bath mat… I could care less how big his dick is.

That being said, if you don’t have the kind of time it would take to demonstrate all of the above, there are things I can show you that will make any woman love you, no matter if you’re a baby carrot, an asparagus spear, or a giant zucchini. Here’s the big news: for most women, salad is not the main course – it’s what happens when a certain hooded button is pushed. And there is a way of pushing it, a touch, a technique… ding ding ding ding… with a little gentle coaching you could be a pro. See, that has nothing to do with the size of your vegetable.

However, if you don’t believe me and are feeling bad because you don’t compare to prize-winning Alaskan cucumbers, there are a few things you can do. Block any email with the word “enhancement” in it, quit smoking, exercise (if you lose the pot belly, anything sticking out will appear longer), and eat your vegetables!

What makes a man all he can be are words, deeds, and gentle, patient, sensuality-not size. Any penis can bring great ecstasy. Strut your stuff with confidence. If you want to really impress me, make me climax without using your penis at all.

-Tatyana