I’ll admit at first glance that these pictures can be a bit shocking. Suspension, where you’re supported solely by ropes, isn’t something people new to the art of bondage tend to start with. Shibari can be beautiful and scary. The word “shibari,” simply translated from Japanese, means “to tie.” But shibari, as it’s known now, is more of an artistic style of rope bondage.
I know, hearing the word “bondage” can put some people off, but shibari can be relaxing and almost therapeutic for both the rope bunny, the one being bound, and the rigger, the one doing the tying. As a rope bunny, I find it a very relaxing and calming time. My mind is at peace and I can simply be in the moment. The longer I’m bound for, the more I get into an almost intoxicated state. To be relaxed completely in one’s body is the best gift a rigger can give during a shibari session. I spoke with a friend of mine who is a rigger to get that point of view as well. He doesn’t get the same relaxation from being bound, his relaxation comes from the tying. From his point of view, it gives him a singular focus; how each rope, knot, column will affect the suspension. The stillness and calmness it brings his mind is his form of therapy.
Shibari is one act that falls under the greater header of BDSM. For those that have never seen that acronym before, it stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism. And that sounds ever more terrifying! But BDSM is actually an exercise in trust and consent. One of the biggest sayings within the BDSM community is “safe, sane, and consensual.” Everything done has to be done in a safe manner. In shibari, for example, it’s making sure that circulation isn’t being cut off or skin being pinched. Both of which defeat the point of the experience. Sane sounds like the obvious one but it simply means that everything should be taken in a sensible state of mind. Which, for example, means that neither participant should be drinking or intoxicated in any way. Then there is a danger aspect that can’t be ignored — same as driving a car. Consensual, meaning all limits and wants or needs should be communicated prior to any scene so both participants can be comfortable and enjoy the experience together.
There are many types of BDSM play that can be incorporated into any type of session at a legal Nevada brothel. Below are the two most often requested of me.
Shibari is a common request for me because, in a personal setting, the requisite trust is hard to build when both sides are inexperienced. The trusted environment of a licensed and legal brothel is a perfect setting for inexperienced riggers to get a taste of what it’s like to tie me up. I am a seasoned rope bunny so I know how things are supposed to feel when done right. As a safety precaution, any time one of our ladies is in a submissive role, another lady is required to be present — so one of my colleagues will be more than happy to guide you as you artfully bind me. I prefer to ask one of the ladies who is experienced as a top or dominant to sit in because she will have a perspective that I don’t and may notice things that could easily be corrected to create a more pleasurable experience.
Another of the most common BDSM requests I get is for for impact play, which is what most people think of when they imagine a BDSM session. But it’s not the blood and screams that some porn makes it out to be. Impact play, as it is usually requested of me, is more of a sensation experience. The light introduction of pain into our sexual session makes the pleasure even more heightened.
When people visit the legal brothels of Nevada, they often forget that there are a wide range of courtesans available, each with her own set of particular proficiencies. Curious visitors could explore techniques like shibari, and other types of BDSM like impact play, in the safe, private, and non-judgmental environment of a Nevada bordello. I’m fond of everyone I’ve ever had a BDSM session with. Even more so with those I see more often. It’s definitely something I think everyone should experience at least once in their life. I have my rope available whenever you’re ready to come over for the experience you’ll never forget.