In my numerous years as a legal courtesan at Sheri’s Ranch I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve been asked why I do what I do. The wider question comes from all fronts – clients, of course, but also tourists visiting Sheri’s Ranch as well as friends, family and people who I meet in passing.
The majority of my clients enter my world because they are seeking something missing from their personal lives. Not sure what to expect from the sex-for-sale trade, they arrive at Sheri’s with some serious misconceptions only to be pleasantly surprised. Others, particularly couples, are looking to explore their sexuality in a defined and safe setting. These men and women – many who I’ve become quite close with both physically and emotionally – often come to have a great and genuine appreciation for the breadth of “services” offered through legal prostitution and to gain an understanding of why someone like me would love what she does. After all, it’s not just about sex, and they get that.
It is the larger public that seems tawdrily fascinated by my chosen profession (so much sex and sin, so taboo!) plus their decidedly off-mark perception that most “working-girls” are at best reticent about their trade; many people assume I work this trade out of necessity or desperation, perhaps even coercion. Not the case at all.
So, why would a good-looking, college-educated woman of established professional success make the leap from boardroom to bedroom? If you care to hear, read on.
1. I Love Sex!
There, I said it. Yes, I LOVE sex. More than I ever did before. Is that a bad thing? I think not. Generally speaking it’s assumed and socially accepted that men love and need sex. But for a woman to so openly embrace her love of the loins even in contemporary Western times is considered crude at the very least by many. But the fact is that I do adore and crave sex. To me it’s a passionate and personal thing, even in a brothel setting; every day I learn more about myself, my desires and fears, my perception of myself and those around me. My body has felt and done things I never even imagined. I get to play and explore in a secure haven and I allow others to do that, too. I’ve embarked on a sexual odyssey and it is fantastically exciting.
Plus, I remember being told a long time ago that if you enjoy what you do you’ll never work a day in your life. Welcome to my world!
2. I get paid – well – to be bad
I won’t lie. I get a kick out of making a healthy living out of doing what many scorn but secretly desire to do. I get paid to be a bad girl, a “slut”, a “whore”. In so doing I fulfill my own fantasies but I enable others to live out theirs, too. As I say in my Sheri’s Ranch profile, “I believe that every real man needs a bad girl to allow him to release his inner bad boy”. Oh, and I enjoy bringing the inner bad girl out in a female lover, too.
Don’t you wish you got paid handsomely to be a societal renegade? Plus I consider myself a true lady. Contradictory? Perhaps to some but not to me and not to most lovers I’ve made over the years.
3. People open up to me on the most personal of levels
People reveal so much to me – their bodies, deepest fears, darkest fantasies, sweetest desires. I am a keeper of secrets. I make fantasies come true. I am part lover, part therapist.
Sex is a bridge to emotions. Sometimes a simple touch is all a person needs to feel the ability to let his guard down about a hang-up. At times a kiss to the neck allows someone else to just release and cry while I hold her. How cathartic. And then we get to the deep sexual fantasies…. What do they mean? Why do we like that of all things? Very frightening sometimes but less so when someone you trust and who isn’t judging you is there by your side. And then it becomes intoxicating. But beyond the sex it’s about true friendship and connection. Secrets shared, connections made. I mean that.
4. I change lives
Little did I know that when I got into this profession I would have such a markedly positive impact on so many lives. Yes, of course, there are the gents who come in for and get mind blowing sexual pleasure (please don’t ever stop coming to see me – I love you guys!!!!!) but I’m talking about the “above and beyond”, as well. To recall just a few:
- The couple who later admitted to me that they had been on the verge of divorce and who thanked me for doing more to bring them back together than any marriage counselor had done.
- The gent who came in a broken soul on his birthday following a tragic multi-year string of events who left later that day smiling, very alive and vowing to be back soon.
- The one who let me be his first. That means a lot to me.
5. I’m a free agent
I set my own schedule. I determine what sort of activities I wish to engage in and with whom. As an independent contractor I decide what I want to do and when I want so long as I treat the patrons, house and profession with respect. Hard to find elsewhere, and I know, because I’ve worked in vastly different sectors. I could go on about my unexpected love for this lifestyle/job. Rather, I’ll leave you with three parting thoughts that might have you daydreaming about being a working girl at Sheri’s:
- I’m (rarely) late for work because my daily commute is down the hallway.
- My clothes always fit (the magic of Lycra).
- Ever day is an adventure. Truly. And therein is the magic.
Keep tuning in, I’ll have a lot more to blog on in coming weeks. In the meantime I would love your feedback on this post. Leave me a comment below…
As a recent client, I can testify that, without a doubt, you do love your work. It would not be possible for you to be as good at it as you are without some passion(actually a great deal of passion)for your job. I came to you a scared, completely inexperienced, clumsy lover and you were literally able to change my life in a few hours. And it wasn’t just the sex. It was your attitude toward me. I never, for one second, felt like I was just “another day at the office” for you. I would think that in your field it takes some special talent to pull that off. And you have so eloquently expressed how you can do that in this blog. I’ve said this to you before but I think it bears repeating: Coming to you for advice about sex(or sex itself)and then not believing in what you said or did would be the equivalent of asking Warren Buffett for investment advice and then, when he told you what to do saying “What a dork! This guy doesn’t know anything.” Excellent(and very revealing)blog! Can’t wait for the next one…..
I’ve just begun doing some research on legal prostitution and this is one of the first things I came across. I loved it. Great job Char. Looking forward to more.
Went through a very bad time in my life while stationed in Germany, where prostitution is legal. I can say that the kindness I experienced with a courtesan I frequented there probably saved me from committing suicide. She gave me hope that life could still be joyful. 20 years later, and those times are still some of my most precious memories.
Jazz et al:
Thank you for your feedback, and my apologies for only getting back on this thread now. I really enjoyed writing this piece. Its parts had been percolating in me for years and it was very cool/fun/introspectively revealing to really sit down and process over a couple of weeks before I finally put pen to paper. Honestly, I could have gone on beyond 5 Reasons.
Jazz attested firsthand that this isn’t just a job for me. Liam spoke from the heart (I’m glad you found her!). I would LOVE to have some further feedback from others – especially those I’m close with. You can further attest to my enthusiasm.
Entered into correctly, a visit to a brothel can be positively transforming.
Xxoo
Char
Well Char mentioned the old saying that if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life. That is Char! I was fortunate to have a party with her a couple of years ago, and it was amazing. I had made an appointment with her in advance, though I had never met her in person. We agreed to meet in the bar at a certain time. I was a bit apprehensive, never having met this lady before, but when she walked in the bar, it took about one-half a second to know I had made a good choice. And at that point little did I know how good a choice it was. We visited in the bar for a little bit, went to her room for negotiations, then to a bungalow for the party. And WOW! Char was amazing. Full of energy, loving, sexy, enchanting, etc etc etc. Char is the pinnacle of her profession, but when you are with her, you would never know you are with a professional, she makes you feel like you are THE GUY. A shout out to Char, you are amazing!
I am one of the gents that Char referred to above and I have to add that I have been back to visit her and I think she is responsible for getting me back on my feet in every aspect imaginable. So patient, so warm, so engaging , very special in every way possible. From the very minute I see her she makes it all special and for a life that has been absent of any loving touch, care, conversation, feeling, warmth for many months I would tell anyone you would not be disappointed by spending time with this very classy lady who can be as classy as needed and knows what is needed. I was very close to seeing a therapist and Char knows the life struggles. I truly believe she has brought me back by treating me as a worthwhile person. She is so Great at knowing exactly what is needed. Until we meet again! Thank You Special Lady!!
Thank you all, for your meaningful words. I really love taking care of you!
xxoo
Char, we have been emailing for about a week or so and you have tried to pin me down to a date but I keep putting you off. You know I was reluctant because I have never done this before. You directed me to your blog and I thank you for that. I think I am getting closer to getting there soon. I am fairly good looking but have grown tired of dating the women in Las Vegas. Due to my age, it is interesting to date 40/50 year old women because it seems they have figured out sex is a lot of fun too finally. Wait until you reach your mid forties and you will be like a 20 year old male that can not get enough sex. well, maybe you have reached that stage already! It is fun but for me, dating is a pain in the rear! How knows, maybe I might become a LTR for you at Sheri’s but of course, no need to be only with one gal! Hope to see you soon?
Greg