There can be many different factors as to why someone is still a virgin at 25 or whatever age…. And why they would rather visit a brothel for their first time… Just because you ask a girl out and she says no does not mean you’re pathetic, women can sense your confidence level and if you’re unsure that makes us unsure… You have to be ok with rejection or you’ll miss out on a dozen opportunities to meet women and possibly find your “soul mate” some men are even too shy to talk to a women, why would that make him pathetic??? Everybody has had a different childhood, and learned from the adults around them. Not all men who choose to lose their virginity at a brothel have trouble getting a woman, they prefer to have a little experience before meeting a women and sharing that with them… Many different factors those are just a few.