It is believed that just around half of sexually active women and about 5% of sexually active men are able to have multiple orgasms. Other people can learn, but it takes a lot of practice and some people will never be able to master it. It’s not as easy for men to cum multiple times, or even to keep going without a break. This is because of something known as the ‘refractory period’ – the time after you blow when your sexually aroused state drops, often below your normal baseline level. During this time your body is resting, recovering, and replenishing your seamen stores. The length of time needed before going again will vary from man to man. Some men naturally recuperate faster than others but age, diet, and physical fitness can also be a factor. For women, the level of arousal doesn’t drop as drastically. This is why some women aren’t as tired after sex as some men. Finally, for someone who has multiple orgasms, it barely drops at all. This means they are able to peak again quickly.
Even for those people who have multiple orgasms the number can vary. Some people are finished after 3 or 4 while others take 7 or 8, or more, to become satisfied. This can also vary for a person from day to day and can depend on mood, energy (food) stores, hormone cycle, and how well rested they are. It is also common for someone to have a greater number of orgasms when they are masturbating. This is generally because you know what you like and can feel it immediately when you’re hitting the right places to make you climax again.
Getting off on getting her off
Men love to watch women cum. It’s sexy, it’s arousing. Whether watching her masturbate or pleasuring her yourself, a woman in the throes of an in intense orgasm is exhilarating. Being able to make a woman cum can do great things for a man’s self esteem. When you look up and see her squealing and squirming, there’s nothing better – unless, you can watch her cum multiple times. Knowing that you are the cause of her writhing in ecstasy, over and over again, is addictive. You won’t want it to end.
When most people think of a brothel they think of people visiting with the intent to get off. But for many gentlemen, it is not only about receiving pleasure, but giving pleasure. A lot of people enjoy sex more when they know the other person is also having fun. For some it is even a requirement that the other person needs to finish before they do. It’s not uncommon for a man to want to stimulate the women and not want any sexual favors in return.
How to have great sex with a multi-orgasmic woman
Being with a multiple-orgasmic woman can do great things for your self esteem and sexual confidence. It’s great to know, “I made that happen. She feels great because of me!” You’ll also find you have a better experience when you don’t have to worry about whether you’re any good or not. Personally I’m extremely sensitive all over. I love being touched and I cum very quickly and easily and over and over again. I’m so easy to please that you’ll never have to wonder if I’m having fun. So you can just relax and focus on enjoying yourself.
If you want to be a real hero you’ll want to make your multiple-orgasmic sex partner happy as many times as possible. Jumping straight in and doing your thing might make her cum 2 or 3 times but what if you want to make her cum 10 times, or more?
Well for starters you’ll need to pace yourself. My record is 48 times but that was over an afternoon, about 4 or 5 hours with breaks. Most sexual intercourse lasts a matter of minutes, not hours, and even that can be tiring. If you are too warn out you won’t be able to perform, and if she is too warn out she’ll find it harder to peak. A good way to combat this is with foreplay. Oral and toys are great. For a very multiple orgasmic woman, once she’s had a few climaxes, it’s easier to have more. So if you make her orgasm a few times first, she’ll keep going while you’re having sex as well. Be prepared, often when a woman cums, her muscles can clench up and squeeze your penis harder. Mix that with the excitement of watching her in immense pleasure and you might be done sooner than you expect. So try to take it slowly. But don’t worry, if she already had fun a couple of times before you started so she won’t feel like she missed out on anything.
If you are like a lot of men who can’t keep going after ejaculation, but you want her to keep going, you can always go back to oral and toys. Try asking her to choose a favorite toy and show you how she likes to use it, or try it out on her yourself. That way you can watch her peak over and over again until she’s completely out of breath. Toys are also a fun way to view her from a different angle and see the way her pussy moves and reacts to stimulation.
To maximize her orgasm potential, it’s important to find out what she likes. Everyone likes different things so what works for one lady might not work for another. It doesn’t matter how long you work on her, if she doesn’t like what you’re doing, it’s not going to happen. Don’t be intimidated by this – no one is going to be offended if you want to know how to please them. A few quick question could include:
Do you prefer penetration or clitoral stimulation? – Oral, fingers, toys or sex.
Do you like it fast or slow? Hard or soft?
Do you have a favorite position?
This should give you a good starting point. From there, you need to pay attention the way she reacts to what you’re doing. Some good signs might include gasping, moaning, squirming, flailing, arching her back, thrusting her pelvis or pushing up against you. A big give away is breathing. When a person becomes sexually excited, their breathing usually becomes heavier and often faster. This will let you know she is enjoying herself. If you learn to read a woman’s body, you can’t go wrong.
Images feature Emma from Sheri’s Ranch.
So you’re, as Woody Allen (and Freud) would say, “Polymorphously Perverse?”
Emma,
What a wonderful blog! It takes the saying “it is better to give than to receive” to a whole new level. It is refreshing to know that many men feel this way. I always thought I was a little weird that I thought the woman should be pleased before I had an orgasm. You are correct in that it is exciting for me to see a woman enjoying herself so much that she has multiple orgasms. It does boost ones ego! Unfortunately, due to age and poor health, I am pretty much done after one time. Therefore, it is important to be able to pace myself to last as long as possible. I would love to meet you someday, hopefully on my next visit.
Hi Steve,
You’re definitely not weird. Lots of men really like to pleasure women, and women appreciate it. 😉
I find ejaculation kind of disgusting.
I think that I just want to do touching and sexual intercourse with a beautiful woman.
Are you talking about your own ejaculation? Or when a female ejaculates?
I don’t squirt. I tried to learn but was unsuccessful. I read somewhere that all females have to potential to do it but I’ve tried so many times that I’m sure I can’t. I do however, have a lot of orgasms.
If anyone does want to read about female ejaculation, they should check out Kitty Cat’s blog post.
http://newblog.sherisranch.com/sex-advice/female-ejaculation-elusive-squirting-pussy/
Very enlightening Emma! I myself have been able to manage 3-4 orgasms in a couple hours and I love that you stress the giving as well as receiving. I feel like your tips about pleasuring the lady with oral or toys while the gentleman is recuperating are enlightening. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!
Thanks, Erin. I’m glad to hear that some of the ladies have found my post interesting too. Having 3-4 orgasms is still a fair effort. Was that with a partner, or solo?
Good blog, lots of great tips for the gentlemen. Not all men enjoy or take part in providing such pleasure so tips for those how do is a great thing! Im lucky mine loves giving multiple orgasms and my squirting. You have to be very relaxed and comfortable with all involved from my experience anyways 🙂
You’re right. Being relaxed and comfortable really helps. Not only for multiple orgasms and squirting but it makes sex far more enjoyable for everyone.
Dang! You described me exactly!
I thoroughly enjoy pleasuring women, especially orally! I like both tastes.
And, yes, it’s the sweet taste of victory!
But I am unsure of the effects of the dental dam, if still used, will have.
I will have to rely on the ladies guidance.
Great article!
Hi Robin,
I always enjoy meeting men who want to please a woman. We do have to use dental dams for oral but it still feels good.