As mentioned in an earlier post about three-way sex, there are two primary types of threesomes:

1. A threesome in which a male/female couple in a long-term relationship asks another woman to join them for sex.
2. A threesome in which a man has sex with two women, neither of which are in a long term relationship with the man.

In this post I’ll cover the first type, specifically focusing on couples who are considering a threesome for the first time.

Disclaimer

I am a legal courtesan who works at a licensed brothel outside of Las Vegas. These tips are based on my personal experiences employed as the “plus one” in three-way sex parties.

Should you and your significant other have a threesome?

Once you have a threesome, there’s no taking it back. Inviting a third person into your most intimate space is a very real thing and it could have very real consequences. It is of paramount importance that you and your domestic partner are 100% certain that this is something you both want to do.

A threesome will most likely add a marvelous new dimension to your sex life as long as you are both open to exploring all of the mutually beneficial possibilities three-way sex has to offer. But if one of you feels that you have been in any way pressured into the situation, a threesome could have repercussions that may negatively affect your relationship.

In my experience, one of the most common mistakes occurs when a person (often the female of the couple) agrees to a threesome in an attempt to save an already flimsy relationship. A threesome is not the answer to your domestic problems. While a threesome could definitely alleviate sexual monotony between an otherwise committed couple, it is best suited for open-minded couples who have a very strong bond between them.

So if you and your soul mate are devoted to each other in and out of the sack, and you are both ready to add another hot chapter to your sexual playbook, then a threesome is for you.

Three tips for the best couple’s threesome

Once you decide definitively that a threesome is a mutual desire shared between you and your lover, it’s important to keep the following in mind as you move forward.

1. Set boundaries

Boundaries, with regard to a threesome, are the rules agreed upon by the three participants based on the couple’s preferences and level of comfort. Since each couple’s sexual reality is unique, there are no absolute rules for threesome boundaries.

A few examples of boundaries I’ve encountered include

• No intercourse with the courtesan.
• No mouth kissing with the courtesan.
• If one member of the couple decides to stop, we all stop.

Boundaries must be established prior to the sexual encounter and should be taken seriously. In my experience, threesomes with definitive boundaries are very rarely unsuccessful. There’s a certain titillating anticipation that comes with knowing ahead of time all of the naughty things that are going to happen between the three of us. After all, Boundaries not only help define what can’t be done, but also what can be done…

2. Relax

With all of the tension associated with setting boundaries and preparing for your first three-way sexcapade, it’s understandable that you both may be a little nervous. Unfortunately, when you’re nervous certain parts of you might not work properly and it could be very difficult to get lost in the threesome fantasy-come-reality.

Trust is the first step toward relaxation. It’s important that you trust your partner as well as the third party, and that you truly believe everyone has everybody’s best interests at heart. Remind yourself that you are in a safe place with people who care about you. Start slowly with conversation and caressing and ease your way into more intense levels of intimacy. The pace, as everything in a threesome, is based on the joint comfort level of the three participants. No one should ever feel rushed.

3. Involve all persons

Since I’m a professional working girl, I have the experience and know-how to suggest positions and situations that involve all three lovers. If you don’t decide to have your first threesome at a sex resort or legal brothel, please note that the most delicate aspect of threesome sex is inclusion. There is nothing more awkward than a threesome that becomes a twosome.

For example, some men love to masturbate while their partner and another woman go at it – and that’s great inclusion. But if a guy is having intercourse with the third party and, consciously or unconsciously, they both ignore his significant other for a time – that’s a common amateur mistake that could lead to distress. Always be sensitive to what all three participants are feeling.

For first timers, I recommend that you take inclusion into account at the planning stage:

• Discuss several of the three-way sexual scenarios ahead of time.
• Make sure these scenarios involve all three participants.
• Make sure that you and your lover (not to mention the third party) fully agree on the scenarios chosen.

I hope these tips provide a useful outline for your first threesome experience. If you’d like to discuss any of these in detail, contact me through my profile.