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What a week! I got my reading in (partially due to a 6 hour delay at the airport, but you fill your time the best you can) and did my workouts and stuck to my new pledge to read one major news source per week. Plus, I figured out how to use some of the new software tools at work so I can do my job better!

I . . . I feel a poem coming on. (But no singing!)

They drift from place to place
Limply dropping their birthright
for meetings and mission statements
The anonymous, the faceless, the pallid.

But no – not I!
With gnashing teeth and feral eye,
Then take ideas
and build them high!

Better conviction than a whimper
Better a shout than a sigh.

[GoodHeart]

Thanks for doing these, Allissa. Here’s hoping your co-workers (and management!) understand all the time you have to put in to produce them.

[GoodHeart]

First off, please accept my sympathy for your wife’s passing. I hope that you can remember the reasons that you loved her to help you through this time.

In addition to what Flint said, let me give you two reasons to allay your concerns. (1) I’ve talked with many of the ladies at Sheri’s, and they’ve all been compassionate people. I’m sure they understand that some times things don’t go as the man planned (and this happens to all men, not just older ones). If something like this happens, the lady you’re with can handle it with empathy.

Also, when the ladies get a gentleman for GFE, I am virtually certain that they would look forward to that gentleman returning at another time. So establishing rapport is just how things proceed naturally.

Hope everything goes well!

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I just got back from my March visit, and in case someone else reviews this post, yes you can bring in food to the ladies of the house. You have to drop it off up front so someone else takes to the kitchen (which makes sense), but that’s the only restriction. And if anyone’s looking for suggestions, I’d lean towards something the ladies can’t just order themselves and have delivered (such as pizza):

Girl Scout cookies (great, but only available seasonally)
McDonalds shakes
Dairy Queen Blizzards
Subway (although not the best choice as it requires coordination with the ladies based on their tastes)

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Hands down, Erin. As a Marine I’m betting she has training in wilderness survival, or at least water purification.

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There are two other things that you might consider:

1. From what I’ve read, the negotiation is a very important part of the process. If there’s a lady who speaks Chinese there that day, then there’s no problem. But if not (and in skimming the languages spoken at Sheri’s I don’t see Chinese, so it’s likely that there won’t be), then the language barrier would keep your friend from saying what he wants. And I don’t see how he can have a fun time if he can’t describe what he enjoys.

So I would suggest calling ahead and seeing if you can accompany your friend into negotiations (and not beyond that) to describe what he enjoys.

2. Regardless of what your friend chooses to do, it would have to be frustrating if it gets underway and he can’t communicate to affect the events of the evening. So I’d suggest (1) coaching him in some very basic English phrases pertinent to what he wants to do. “Yes!” and “That feels great!” would be good examples. (2) If there are specific acts he wants, then put them on flash cards with Chinese on one side and English on the other. I really don’t mean to be tacky, but I had a hell of a time remembering my first-year Spanish during exams, and that was without the presence of a beautiful woman and my heartrate going through the roof. Being able to say what he wants without pressure should reduce the stress and awkwardness.

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Thanks, all. I assumed that I should wait until everything was ready to go before contacting a lady, but it looks like this is unnecessary (and counterproductive). As long as I’m honest that I won’t be there until January so I can save up I agree that it’ll be OK.

P.S. The Newbies Guide and What Every Client Should Know were enormously helpful in understanding what to do and expect and dispelling the unease with something that’s entirely new.

To adventure!

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Thanks, Flint. No, I haven’t contacted any of the ladies because I won’t have the money that I expect to spend saved up until the end of this month. This will set me up for a visit in January at the earliest, and I don’t want to set up an appointment with a lady until I’m absolutely certain I can pay for it. They’re busy, and I expect they don’t appreciate people who occupy their time, but don’t follow through.

But I’m a big proponent of pre-planning, and between your advice and hoochie’s, I’ll know how to proceed when I’m ready to go.

Thanks again for your advice,

GoodHeart

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Thanks! Could you answer one more question? There are, as you said, a few ladies in the age range I’m interested in. I can see the days that they’ll be working, but there’s no time of day. Since Sheri’s is a 24 hour establishment, I don’t want to arrive after they’ve worked all day and are trying to rest. So is my best bet to contact each lady to find the time of day she’ll be available? Or is there something on the site that says this, and I just missed it?

Thanks again.

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